Why Feminism is Hateful Towards Women
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What is Feminism?
Feminism is a movement that on its surface claims to strive for equality of women.
Feminists argue that women should be equal to men in social, economic, political, and personal matters.
They argue that women are inherently equal to men.
Therefore, all spheres of life should have equal representation of women.
But is the premise that men and women are equal even true?
The Myth of Equality of the Sexes
Men and women are not equal.
That’s right, I said it!
Prove it, you say?
People often conflate the definitions of equality, sameness and equity.
First, we need to define what it actually means to be equal.
When people talk about equality, they tend to mean equal opportunity to pursue social, economic, political, and personal ends.
In a sense, I have no problem with women trying to pursue ends that are consistent with their talents.
However, men and women generally aren’t the same in given talents.
Therefore, if women pursue ends suited to men with equal opportunity given, they will not be successful as men.
And setting up women to fail in the world is not my idea of love.
Moreover, God has given women their own role in the world, which is equal in dignity to men.
Pursuing this more submissive and complimentary feminine role is much more fulfilling to women.
Men and Women are NOT the Same
So what is sameness?
Sameness means that men and women are the same.
This should be pretty obvious that this is not the case.
If you don’t believe that, then I would encourage you to open a biology book and read it.
Men and women have different chromosome pairs, different reproductive systems, different hormonal balances, and a myriad of other inherent differences.
Because of our biology, men tend to be bigger, stronger, dominant, and more aggressive than women.
In contrast, women tend to be smaller, weaker, and more submissive than men.
We can see the results of this in sports, the military and the corporate world.
For instance, elite powerlifters that are men tend to be significantly stronger than elite powerlifting women.
Moreover, men and women have separate sports teams because of the fact that women aren’t competitive to men.
In the corporate world, men tend to rise in the top and naturally dominate.
I can keep going, but the point should be obvious.
Giving Advantages is the Only Way to Ensure Equal Outcome
So given that it’s obvious that men and women are not the same, what is equity?
Equity means to give advantages to women so that they can achieve an equal outcome to men.
For example, the military has lower fitness standards for women in order to accommodate them.
Also, feminists argue for quotas in the workforce to ensure there is equal representation of women in male-dominated careers.
So far we have established that men and women aren’t the same.
Also, we have shown that feminists need to push for advantages for women in order to achieve equal outcome.
And this gets to what feminists actually mean when they say that they want equality for women.
What feminists really want is for people to not acknowledge differences in the sexes and to give women advantages.
They want this to ultimately usurp the role of men in the world, instead of embracing their God-given feminine role.
In other words, feminists hate both men and women.
Feminists hate men because they envy men, and they hate women because they hate the natural feminine role.
Women are bad at being men and should instead pursue their God-given role.
So What’s the God-Given Role for Women Then?
The God-given role for women is to be the helper of man.
In Genesis 2:18, The Bible says:
And the Lord God said: It is not good for man to be alone: let us make him a help like unto himself.
Genesis 2:18
So as we can see from the beginning God made women to assist men.
This was not the result of Original Sin.
However, Original Sin was the first attempt of women to usurp the role of God and man.
God told Eve not to eat the fruit, but she gave in to the temptation of Satan, and did so.
Then she even lead Adam to do the same, who instead of rebuking her, followed her into committing sin.
This lead to God making it clear that men shall dominate women going forward.
In Genesis 3:16, The Bible says:
To the woman also he said: I will multiply thy sorrows, and thy conceptions: in sorrow shalt thou bring forth children, and thou shalt be under thy husband’s power, and he shall have dominion over thee.
Genesis 3:16
As we can see, God made women the helpers to men.
Then when women tried to usurp the power given to God, He doubled down on their submission to men.
However, the usurpation of those naturally above women, namely God and men, has remained in women.
This tendency is a part of their particular concupiscence and explains why Godless feminists constantly seek to usurp men.
Wives are to be Submissive to their Husbands
Thus far we have established that God created women to assist men, not to dominate men.
Wives are to be submissive to their husbands.
This truth is in The Bible, affirmed by Church Fathers and other Saints, and affirmed by Popes.
What Does St. Paul Say Regarding Submission of Wives?
The New Testament reiterates this fact of creation when talking about the relationship between husbands and wives.
In Ephesians 5:22-24, St. Paul writes:
Let women be subject to their husbands, as to the Lord: Because the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. He is the saviour of his body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be to their husbands in all things.
Ephesians 5:22-24
Furthermore, in 1 Corinthians 11:3 he says:
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 11:3
Moreover, in Colossians 3:18 he says:
Wives, be subject to your husbands, as it behoveth in the Lord.
Colossians 3:18
Also, in Titus 2:5, St. Paul writes in reference to wives:
To be discreet, chaste, sober, having a care of the house, gentle, obedient to their husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:5
What Does St. Peter Say Regarding Submission of Wives?
Likewise, in the New Testament, our first Pope, St. Peter writes in 1 Peter 3:1-6:
In like manner also let wives be subject to their husbands: that if any believe not the word, they may be won without the word, by the conversation of the wives. Considering your chaste conversation with fear. Whose adorning let it not be the outward plaiting of the hair, or the wearing of gold, or the putting on of apparel: But the hidden man of the heart in the incorruptibility of a quiet and a meek spirit, which is rich in the sight of God. For after this manner heretofore the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands: As Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters you are, doing well, and not fearing any disturbance.
1 Peter 3:1-6
In conclusion, the New Testament reiterates God’s commandment for women to submit to their husbands.
What Do the Church Fathers Say Regarding Submission of Wives?
The Church Fathers also have a lot to say regarding the submission of wives to their husbands.
In his Epistle to the Philadelphians, St. Ignatius of Antioch writes:
Wives, be ye subject to your husbands in the fear of God; and ye virgins, to Christ in purity, not counting marriage an abomination, but desiring that which is better, not for the reproach of wedlock, but for the sake of meditating on the law.
The Epistle of Ignatius to the Philadelphians, Ch 4
In Book II, Chapter 13 of On the Apparel of Women, Tertullian writes:
Submit your head to your husbands, and you will be enough adorned.
On the Apparel of Women, Bk II, Ch 13
In Book IV, Chapter 8 of The Stromata, Clement of Alexandria writes:
The ruling power is therefore the head. And if
The Stromata, Bk IV, Ch 8the Lord is head of the man, and the man is head of the woman,the man,being the image and glory of God, is lord of the woman.
In Book I, Chapter 10 of On Marriage and Concupiscence, St. Augustine writes:
Nor can it be doubted, that it is more consonant with the order of nature that men should bear rule over women, than women over men.
On Marriage and Concupiscence, Bk I, Ch 10
In regards to Ephesians 5:23-24, St. John Chrysostom says in his 20th Homily on Ephesians:
As then
Homily 20 on Ephesians, St. John Chrysostomthe Church,that is, both husbands and wives,is subject unto Christ, so also ye wives submit yourselves to your husbands, as unto God.
Thus, it is clear that the Church Fathers have a consensus on the submission of wives to their husbands.
What Does St. Thomas Aquinas Say Regarding Submission of Wives?
The Angelic Doctor of the Church, St. Thomas Aquinas, continues the interpretations of the Church Fathers regarding the submission of wives to husbands.
In Summa Theologica, St. Thomas, referencing St. Paul, writes:
For though the wife be her husband’s equal in the marriage act, yet in matters of housekeeping, the head of the woman is the man, as the Apostle says (1 Corinthians 11:3).
ST II-II q. 32, a. 8
In Summa Theologica, St. Thomas, referencing St. Augustine, writes:
For the higher reason which is assigned to contemplation is compared to the lower reason which is assigned to action, and the husband is compared to his wife, who should be ruled by her husband, as Augustine says (De Trin. xii, 3,7,12).
ST II-II q. 128, a. 4
As we can see, St. Thomas Aquinas perpetuated the Tradition of wives submitting to their husbands.
What Do Popes Say Regarding Submission of Wives?
Recent popes have also maintained the Tradition of wives submitting to their husbands.
In his encyclical, Arcanum Divinae, Pope Leo XIII writes:
The husband is the chief of the family and the head of the wife. The woman, because she is flesh of his flesh, and bone of his bone, must be subject to her husband and obey him; not, indeed, as a servant, but as a companion, so that her obedience shall be wanting in neither honor nor dignity. Since the husband represents Christ, and since the wife represents the Church, let there always be, both in him who commands and in her who obeys, a heaven-born love guiding both in their respective duties. For “the husband is the head of the wife; as Christ is the head of the Church. . . Therefore, as the Church is subject to Christ, so also let wives be to their husbands in all things.”
Arcanum Divinae
In his encyclical, Casti Connubii, Pope Pius XI writes:
Domestic society being confirmed, therefore, by this bond of love, there should flourish in it that “order of love,” as St. Augustine calls it. This order includes both the primacy of the husband with regard to the wife and children, the ready subjection of the wife and her willing obedience, which the Apostle commends in these words: “Let women be subject to their husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ is the head of the Church.”
Casti Connubii
These popes maintained the same Tradition given in Sacred Scripture affirmed by the Church Fathers and St. Thomas.
In conclusion, wives submitting to their husbands has been the consistent Church Tradition since the beginning.
What is the Role of Women in the Church?
As in the family life, the Bible, Church Fathers and St. Thomas have taught that the role of a woman is to be submissive in Church life.
This means that women are not to be priests.
Nor are they to be in teaching authority over men in the Church.
Also, they must display their submission with humility.
What Does The Bible Say About the Role of Women in the Church?
First, St. Paul commands women to be silent in churches.
In 1 Corinthians 14:34-35, St. Paul writes:
Let women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted them to speak, but to be subject, as also the law saith. But if they would learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is a shame for a woman to speak in the church.
1 Corinthians 14:34-35
In addition to being silent, St. Paul says that women are not to teach nor have authority over men in the Church.
In 1 Timothy 2:11-15, St. Paul writes:
Let the woman learn in silence, with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to use authority over the man: but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed; then Eve. And Adam was not seduced; but the woman being seduced, was in the transgression. Yet she shall be saved through childbearing; if she continue in faith, and love, and sanctification, with sobriety.
1 Timothy 2:11-15
Finally, St. Paul says women should keep their heads covered in church to show submissiveness and humility.
In 1 Corinthians 11:5-10, St. Paul writes:
But every woman praying or prophesying with her head not covered, disgraceth her head: for it is all one as if she were shaven…The man indeed ought not to cover his head, because he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man. For the man was not created for the woman, but the woman for the man. Therefore ought the woman to have a power over her head, because of the angels.
1 Corinthians 11:5-10
What Does St. Thomas Aquinas Say About the Role of Women in the Church?
St. Thomas Aquinas both upholds and clarifies the teaching of St. Paul in The Bible.
In Summa Theologica, Treatise on the Theological Virtues, Question 177, Article 2, St. Thomas, referencing St. Paul, writes:
The Apostle says (1 Corinthians 14:34): ‘Let women keep silence in the churches,’ and (1 Timothy 2:12): ‘I suffer not a woman to teach.’ Now this pertains especially to the grace of the word. Therefore the grace of the word is not becoming to women. I answer that, Speech may be employed in two ways: in one way privately, to one or a few, in familiar conversation, and in this respect the grace of the word may be becoming to women; in another way, publicly, addressing oneself to the whole church, and this is not permitted to women. First and chiefly, on account of the condition attaching to the female sex, whereby woman should be subject to man, as appears from Genesis 3:16
ST II-II, q. 177, a. 2
As you can see, St. Thomas echoes St. Paul in his Biblical teaching.
To sum up, men shall lead the Church and the role of publicly teaching is for men alone.
This means all popes, bishops, priests and deacons are to be men.
The role of the woman in the Church is to support the men, just like her role in the family.
What Do the Popes Say About the Role of Women in Society?
Popes have made it clear that the primary role of women in society is in taking care of the home.
The Magisterium has consistently spoken out against the pursuit of outside work for women.
Just read all of Arcanum Divinae and Casti Connubii if you want to understand the role of women.
Popes Leo XIII and Pius XI have a lot of wisdom to share in those 2 encyclicals alone.
Pope Leo XIII was one of the first popes to comment on the secular movement shifting the role of women from the home to the workforce.
In his encyclical, Rerum Novarum, Pope Leo XIII writes:
Women, again, are not suited for certain occupations; a woman is by nature fitted for home-work, and it is that which is best adapted at once to preserve her modesty and to promote the good bringing up of children and the well-being of the family
Rerum Novarum
Thus, the role of women is to bring up children and to take care of the home and the family.
Pope Pius XI on the Role of Women in Society
In his encyclical, Casti Connubii, writing about women choosing outside work over the household, Pope Pius XI writes:
This, however, is not the true emancipation of woman, nor that rational and exalted liberty which belongs to the noble office of a Christian woman and wife; it is rather the debasing of the womanly character and the dignity of motherhood, and indeed of the whole family, as a result of which the husband suffers the loss of his wife, the children of their mother, and the home and the whole family of an ever watchful guardian.
Casti Connubii
Additionally, Pope Pius XI writes in his encyclical Quadragesimo Anno:
Mothers, concentrating on household duties, should work primarily in the home or in its immediate vicinity. It is an intolerable abuse, and to be abolished at all cost, for mothers on account of the father’s low wage to be forced to engage in gainful occupations outside the home to the neglect of their proper cares and duties, especially the training of children. Every effort must therefore be made that fathers of families receive a wage large enough to meet ordinary family needs adequately.
Quadragesimo Anno
To sum up, women working outside the home by choice or force is a detriment to everyone.
The Ideal Woman – The Blessed Mother, Mary
Thus far we have established why feminism is hateful towards women.
Also, we have shown the true role of women in marriage, the Church, and society.
But what is the ideal woman?
The ideal woman is Our Blessed Mother, Mary.
Out of the billions of women that have ever existed Mary is the Chosen One.
Mary is the one that God the Father chose to be His Most Revered Daughter.
Our Blessed Mother is the one that God the Son chose to be His Most Blessed Mother.
The Blessed Virgin is the one that God the Holy Spirit chose to be His Most Blessed Spouse.
What makes Mary the Perfect Woman?
In his masterpiece work, True Devotion to Mary, St. Louis De Montfort teaches us that Holy Mary has ten principle virtues:
- Profound humility
- Lively faith
- Blind obedience
- Continual prayer
- Universal mortification
- Divine purity
- Ardent charity
- Heroic patience
- Angelic sweetness
- Divine wisdom
Going into detail regarding these virtues is outside of the scope of this article.
But you should consider buying True Devotion to Mary.
Humility, The Virtue That Exalts Women
In addition to what St. Louis De Montfort says, The Magnificat shows that it is Mary’s humility that exalts her:
My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord,
my spirit rejoices in God my Savior
for he has looked with favor on his lowly servant.
From this day all generations will call me blessed:
the Almighty has done great things for me,
and holy is his Name.
He has mercy on those who fear him
in every generation.
He has shown the strength of his arm,
he has scattered the proud in their conceit.
He has cast down the mighty from their thrones,
and has lifted up the lowly.
He has filled the hungry with good things,
and the rich he has sent away empty.
He has come to the help of his servant Israel
for he remembered his promise of mercy,
the promise he made to our fathers,
to Abraham and his children forever.
The Magnificat
Mother Teresa, A Humble Saintly Woman of Our Times
Mary may be the ideal woman, but many other saintly women have demonstrated heroic female virtue.
St. Mother Teresa of Calcutta, a walking Saint in her time, demonstrated the virtue that the greatest women have.
She was kind, giving, loving, generous, servile, modest, joyful, obedient, pure, faithful, and above all, she was humble.
Here is her Humility List, which is a good example to follow for women and men:
In conclusion, if there is one thing that makes women more pleasing to God, it is the virtue of humility.
Closing Thoughts on Feminism and Women
To close, I want to make something clear:
I love women.
I love my wife, my mother, and the women that have made my life better.
What I love about my wife is how she complements me and makes me a better man.
My wife does this by pursuing her feminine role in the ideal of Mary.
She takes care of the home and supports me as her beloved husband.
Moreover, she does submit to my headship with grace and humility.
Her being a good woman just inspires me to be the best man I can be.
It inspires me to take care of her, to give her everything that I can give, and to treat her well.
Am I perfect?
No.
I fail a lot, and so do we all.
But her being my support, my assistant, and my helper makes me a better man.
And for that I am grateful.
If she tried to pursue the same role in our family as me, then what’s the point?
I want someone who can complement me, not compete with me.
Likewise, my mom stayed at home and raised my brother and I while my dad worked at a factory.
Sometimes things were tough, so she took jobs selling Avon to her girlfriends or watching other people’s kids.
But her focus was always the same:
To make sure my brother and I got the love and attention we needed.
Food was always on the table.
And the home was always clean.
Like my wife does for me, my mother supported my dad and us the best way that she could.
My wife and mother are both at their best when they pursue the roles that God gave them.
So are all women.
We need women to be women again.
And we need men to man-up and be men again.